1. recommend a process that I’m going to call it the ‘Pure Life Review’, and the purpose of it is to do a review of my life before dying. It is documented that many people go through a process of reviewing their life after death. Period. I would like to do that healing and learning before the body dies. Period. It would include trauma. So please first give a definition of what the pure life review is. Could be with many suggestions and explanations.
2. Second, give what I have named this morning, “‘I Am Lovable’ Protocol”, which is: one, note it, two, welcome it, and three, bless it. The concept is, in first doing the ‘Pure Life Review’, there will be different traumas come up out of the subconscious looking for love and attention. So we could break up the review to be preschool, public school, high school, relationships, workplace, family, health, aging, loss, criticism, and rejection. Please offer up a vision, a working model for doing. the Pure Life Review and the ‘I Am Lovable’ Protocol. Thank you.
1. Definition: What Is the Pure Life Review?
The Pure Life Review is a gentle, conscious, love-based review of your life while you are still living.
It is a practice of looking back over your life not to judge yourself, not to blame others, and not to force painful memories open, but to bring the light of loving awareness to the places in you that may still be waiting to be seen, understood, welcomed, and blessed.
It is inspired by the life-review theme often reported in near-death experience accounts, where people describe seeing their lives with unusual clarity, sometimes with a deeper sense of compassion, meaning, and connection. Research on near-death experiences describes these experiences as often leading to greater spirituality, reduced fear of death, deeper appreciation of life, and increased compassion, though interpretations vary and not every experience is peaceful.
In your language, the Pure Life Review could be defined this way:
The Pure Life Review is the practice of reviewing my whole life from the presence of Love, so that every hidden, frightened, ashamed, rejected, or forgotten part of me may finally be seen, welcomed, understood, and blessed before the body dies.
It is not a harsh review.
It is not a courtroom.
It is not a test.
It is not “What did I do wrong?”
It is more like sitting with Pure Mind, Jesus, Love, or Wise Awareness and asking:
“What in my life still wants love?”
“Can this too be included in Love?”
“What memory still carries contraction?”
“What younger part of me still believes I was not lovable?”
Because trauma can arise in this kind of review, the practice should be done slowly, gently, and within your “window of tolerance,” meaning the range where you can feel and reflect without becoming overwhelmed or shut down. Trauma-sensitive mindfulness often emphasizes stability, choice, grounding, and staying within this tolerable range.
2. The “I Am Lovable” Protocol
Your protocol is beautifully simple:
1. Note It
This means naming what is present without becoming lost in it.
Examples:
“There is fear here.”
“There is shame here.”
“There is contraction in the body.”
“There is sadness looking for love.”
“There is a younger part of me that feels unlovable.”
The key is to avoid making it too personal too quickly. Instead of saying, “I am broken,” the practice says:
“There is pain here.”
“There is a belief that I am not lovable.”
This creates space.
2. Welcome It
Welcoming does not mean approving of what happened.
It does not mean liking the pain.
It does not mean pretending trauma was okay.
Welcoming means:
“This feeling is allowed to be known.”
“This part of me does not have to be pushed away anymore.”
“This contraction may have been waiting many years for kindness.”
Examples:
“Fear, you are welcome here.”
“Shame, you are welcome here.”
“Little one who felt unwanted, you are welcome here.”
“The belief ‘I am not lovable’ is welcome to be seen.”
This is very important: you are not welcoming harm. You are welcoming the wounded part of you that was affected by harm.
3. Bless It
Blessing means offering love, mercy, kindness, and healing intention.
Examples:
“May this fear be held in Love.”
“May this younger part of me feel safe now.”
“May this shame be softened.”
“May this body contraction be blessed.”
“May I learn, slowly and gently, that I am lovable.”
Because the phrase “I am lovable” may create strong contraction, you can soften it into a gradual healing phrase:
“May I learn that I am lovable.”
“May the part of me that feels unlovable be loved.”
“May love reach the place that cannot yet believe it.”
“Pure Mind, may this part of me be held in love.”
“Jesus, show this frightened place that it belongs.”
This is gentler than forcing the nervous system to accept a statement it cannot yet hold.
The Working Model: Pure Life Review + I Am Lovable Protocol
The Pure Life Review is the larger container.
The I Am Lovable Protocol is the healing method used whenever pain, trauma, contraction, fear, shame, criticism, or rejection appears.
The process could look like this:
Step 1: Enter the Review from Love
Begin each session with a short settling phrase:
“I am not here to judge my life.
I am here to bring Love to my life.”
Or:
“Pure Mind, review this life with me gently.”
“Jesus, help me see my life through mercy.”
“Love, show me only what I am ready to hold today.”
Then feel the body, the breath, the chair, the room.
The body must know: this is not the past happening again. This is loving review in the present.
Step 2: Choose One Life Area Only
Do not review the whole life at once.
Choose one area:
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Preschool years
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Public school years
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High school years
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Early adulthood
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Relationships
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Workplace
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Family
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Health and body
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Aging
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Loss and grief
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Criticism
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Rejection
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Shame
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Times I felt unseen
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Times I felt loved
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Times I survived
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Times I was kind
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Times I need to forgive myself
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Times I need to release others
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What still wants blessing before I die?
The review should be slow. One memory, one feeling, one contraction at a time.
Step 3: Ask the Gentle Doorway Question
Once you choose a life area, ask:
“What in this period of my life still wants love?”
Or:
“What memory still carries pain?”
“What part of me still feels unlovable here?”
“What did I need then that I did not receive?”
“What would Love say to that younger me now?”
Then pause.
Do not dig.
Do not force.
Let one image, phrase, body feeling, or memory arise naturally.
The Pure Life Review Worksheet Model
For each memory or life area, use this simple structure:
1. What Appears?
Write briefly:
“A memory from school appeared.”
“A feeling of being criticized appeared.”
“A body contraction appeared in the chest.”
“A belief appeared: ‘I am not lovable.’”
Keep it simple. No need to write every detail.
2. What Did This Part Believe?
Ask:
“What did this part of me come to believe about myself?”
Possible answers:
“I am not good enough.”
“I am too much.”
“I am unwanted.”
“I am not safe.”
“I am not lovable.”
“I have to be perfect to be accepted.”
“I must hide my feelings.”
“I must earn love.”
This is often where healing begins.
3. What Did This Part Need?
Ask:
“What did I need then?”
Possible answers:
“Protection.”
“Comfort.”
“Someone to listen.”
“Someone to believe me.”
“Kindness.”
“A safe adult.”
“Permission to cry.”
“Permission to be myself.”
“Reassurance that I was lovable.”
4. Apply the I Am Lovable Protocol
Note it:
“There is a younger part of me that felt unlovable.”
Welcome it:
“This part is welcome here. It does not have to be hidden anymore.”
Bless it:
“May this part of me be held in Love.
May this part slowly learn: I was always worthy of love.”
5. Receive the New Understanding
Ask:
“What does Love want me to understand now?”
Possible responses:
“That was pain, not proof.”
“Their criticism was not the truth of me.”
“I was a child. I needed care.”
“I survived something difficult.”
“I do not have to keep carrying this alone.”
“The feeling of being unlovable is a wound, not my identity.”
A powerful Pure Life Review phrase:
“This was part of my life, but it is not the whole truth of my being.”
Category Practice: How to Review Each Life Period
Preschool
Ask:
“What did little me need most?”
“Was there fear, confusion, loneliness, or lack of comfort?”
“Can I now offer tenderness to that young child?”
Blessing:
“Little one, you did not have to understand everything.
You were lovable before you could explain yourself.”
Public School
Ask:
“Where did I feel compared, embarrassed, rejected, or unseen?”
“Did I learn that I had to perform to be loved?”
“What school memory still tightens the body?”
Blessing:
“The child who felt left out is welcome here.
May that child be blessed with belonging.”
High School
Ask:
“Where did I feel not attractive enough, not smart enough, not popular enough, or not worthy enough?”
“What identity did I build to survive?”
“What did I hide?”
Blessing:
“The adolescent who tried so hard to belong is welcome here.
May this part know: love was never based on approval.”
Relationships
Ask:
“Where did I lose myself trying to be loved?”
“Where was I hurt by rejection, criticism, distance, or misunderstanding?”
“Where did I believe someone else’s treatment defined my worth?”
Blessing:
“The part of me that wanted to be chosen is welcome here.
May this longing be held in Love.”
Workplace
Ask:
“Where did I feel judged, inadequate, overlooked, used, or criticized?”
“Did I confuse productivity with worth?”
“Where did I carry fear of failure?”
Blessing:
“The worker who tried to prove worth is welcome here.
May this part rest from proving.”
Family
Ask:
“What role did I carry in the family?”
“Where did I feel unseen or misunderstood?”
“What family pain did I absorb?”
Blessing:
“The family part of me is welcome here.
May inherited pain be softened.
May love move through what was difficult.”
Health and Body
Ask:
“Where have I felt betrayed by the body?”
“Where have I judged the body?”
“What has the body carried for me all these years?”
Blessing:
“Dear body, thank you for carrying this life.
May every place of contraction receive kindness.”
Aging
Ask:
“What am I afraid of losing?”
“What remains unfinished?”
“What wisdom has aging given me?”
“What can be released now?”
Blessing:
“The aging body is welcome here.
The changing life is welcome here.
May I age inside Love, not fear.”
Loss
Ask:
“Who or what have I not fully grieved?”
“What goodbye still hurts?”
“What love remains unspoken?”
Blessing:
“Grief, you are welcome here.
Love that had nowhere to go is welcome here.
May this loss be held in mercy.”
Criticism and Rejection
Ask:
“Whose criticism still lives in me?”
“Whose rejection did I turn into self-rejection?”
“What part of me still waits to be accepted?”
Blessing:
“The part of me wounded by criticism is welcome here.
May I no longer confuse rejection with truth.”
A Complete Pure Life Review Session
Here is a full practice you could use.
Opening
“Pure Mind, sit with me as I review this life.
Let only what is ready arise.
Let everything be held in Love.
I am not here to judge.
I am here to bless.”
Feel your feet.
Feel the chair.
Look around the room.
Let the body know: I am here now.
Choose One Area
“Today I will review public school.”
“Today I will review family.”
“Today I will review rejection.”
Ask
“What from this time still wants love?”
Wait gently.
When Something Appears
Say:
“There is a memory here.”
“There is sadness here.”
“There is contraction here.”
“There is a belief that I was not lovable.”
Welcome
“This is welcome to be known.
This part of me is welcome here.
I do not have to push this away.”
Bless
“May this memory be held in Love.
May this younger part be comforted.
May the belief ‘I am not lovable’ be softened.
May I learn that my being has always been worthy of love.”
Close
“This is enough for today.
I do not need to finish my whole life at once.
Love works gently.
I can continue another time.”
Then do something grounding: drink water, look outside, walk slowly, touch something solid, or place a hand on the heart.
Important Safety Principle: Do Not Over-Review
Because this practice may touch trauma, the goal is not to go deep quickly.
The goal is to stay loving, present, and steady.
A helpful rule:
Touch the memory. Bless the part. Return to the present.
Not:
“Dig until everything comes up.”
If you feel overwhelmed, numb, panicky, flooded, or unable to return to the present, stop the review and orient to safety:
“I am here now.”
“This is today.”
“The memory is not happening now.”
“I can pause.”
“I can get support.”
For deeper trauma, this practice may be best supported by a trusted therapist, spiritual director, trauma-informed practitioner, or wise companion.
The Heart of the Practice
The Pure Life Review is not really about death.
It is about becoming free before death.
It is about letting the hidden places of the life be touched by Love while there is still time.
The deepest movement is this:
From judgment to mercy.
From memory to blessing.
From shame to understanding.
From “I was not lovable” to “this wounded part of me is loved now.”
A final core phrase:
“Every part of my life may now be reviewed in Love.
Every part of me that felt unlovable may now be welcomed.
Every wound that is ready may now be blessed.
I do not have to force healing.
I can let Love review my life with me.”